Have you ever asked yourself what you would say to yourself if you could go back in time? Looking at music videos or movies from the 80’s or even early 2000’s you would have thought that by 2019 we would have the technology to do so. But alas, maybe we’ll have to wait until the year 3000…then we can see if we will live under water.
(It’s scary because climate change is real)
I don’t know if it’s the Cher song that’s stuck in my head or the #10YearChallenge but I’ve been feeling really reflective recently and I began asking myself this question:
‘If I could go back in time, what would I tell myself?’
It’s one of those age old questions that we’ve all heard before but genuinely, what would you tell yourself?
I remember in primary school one year we had this activity to build a time capsule. I’m pretty sure I had just seen the episode of Drake and Josh where they built one too so I was really excited. We put in some of our favourite things that we owned and wrote a letter to our future selves about what life was like then and all that we hope to achieve in the future when we’re big and strong adults.
This is similar but kind of the opposite to that.
Instead, I’ve put together a little something that me I wish me from the past knew thanks to the knowledge I have now and things that I hope to do better in the future.
If I could go back in time…
I would tell myself that you have no idea how amazing you are. You have no idea of the amount of amazing things you will achieve. Yes, that means you will finally stop biting your nails and stop worrying about your height and you will learn to love yourself a little bit more each day.
I would tell myself to keep reading. Keep learning. And most of all, never stop asking questions. Stand by the quote that Hilary Duff said in The Cinderella Story ‘never let the fear of striking out keep you from playing the game’. You don’t know what that means yet, but you will. Making mistakes is part of learning and it’s better to try and fail than to never have tried at all.
Sometimes that means you’ll be the youngest person in the room. Other time the only female. Whilst others you’ll be the only ethnic minority. And even other times it’ll be a combination of the three. But don’t let that stop you from going to places or from performing your best. Keep putting your hand up in class. Yes, sometimes that means confidently getting questions wrong in a lecture hall of 150+ people, but don’t worry about that. You’re all there to learn.
You’ll realise that being young is strange. But it shouldn’t be as stressful as you’re making it. Stop worrying about everything, it’s all going to be fine. You have no idea how amazing the journey that lies ahead of you is.You’re going to travel. You’re going to explore. You’re going to fall in love with someone who has been in front of you the whole time. And I know, I hate to admit it but you’re also going to find out that your parents were right about pretty much everything – ikr, unbelievable.
You’re also going to find that the world isn’t always a nice place. But never stop believing that one person can change the world. You have that power inside of you.
Stop apologising for talking too much. Your voice deserves to be heard. No, you don’t know everything and you never will, but you deserve to be in that same room and on the same table as these people who you think have everything all together. SPOILER ALERT: they don’t have everything together. And that’s okay too. Everything takes a different amount of time for everyone but that’s what makes us human.
One day you won’t cry when you watch the Perks of Being a Wallflower and that’s when you’ll realise that you’re okay. Stephen Chbosky was right when he wrote ‘things change. And friends leave. Life doesn’t stop for anybody’ but you know that joy that Charlie feels in the final scene when he’s stuck his head out of the car as they drive through that tunnel? You’re going to feel that level of joy and so much more.
So stop worrying kid; God knew what He was doing when He made you. You’ve been blessed with incredible friends and family and you’re going to be okay.
Never forget that everything’s alright in the end and if it’s not alright yet, it’s not the end.
Also, you get a bit wiser as you grow older 😉
What would you tell your younger self if you had the opportunity to?
Let me know in the comments below.
Until next time,
Abrazos y besos